It is impossible to explain to people the amount of damage that a covert narcissist Mother will do to you and your family.
Unless they have been through it.
You will pull your hair out trying to convince everyone that behind closed doors that she isn’t the “super mom” personality that they see.
For the sake of your mental health, I suggest you stop trying to convince people so you can get back to who you used to be.
A narcissistic parent can make you doubt your own mind with no sweat.
It’s in your best interest to focus on how to deal with the abusive mother rather than getting the approval of people who will never see your scars.
I have been lucky enough to protect my daughter from this cruel behaviour week after week.
However, it’s not easy.
With that being said, here are signs of a covert narcissist Mother you will likely have seen in your family.
Recognize Emotional Manipulation
Read your narcissistic parent’s mind and beat them by detecting their deception and shielding yourself from abuse
What causes covert narcissism?
There is still a lot of research that Psychologists will need to do to find the real cause of narcissistic personality traits.
A 2015 study found that adults with narcissistic personality traits frequently had parents who overvalued their achievements, emphasizing status and praise. The researchers speculate that this teaches children that they are superior to their peers.MedicalToday | Causes of narcissism
Genetics, childhood drama from sexual or verbal abuse are likely linked to personality disorders.
In my experience with my daughter’s abusive Mother, I was able to uncover a lot of childhood drama that occurred in her own childhood.
Similarities like physical abuse, neglect, and a brother being the golden child began to raise red flags in my mind.
Unfortunately, directly asking a covert narcissist Mother about her childhood would have relentless backlash.Our daughter would get subtle abuse if I ever tried to get information about her narcissistic parent's broken childhood. Click To Tweet
Any kind of criticism or “hint” at a problem will be taken as an attack.
There’s no point in fighting a delusion that she thinks is real.
Avoiding these delusional rages is one of many things I have learned to make sure our daughter is protected from the abuse.
How to deal with a covert narcissist Mother?
If you are looking for easy ways to deal with a Narcissist, you aren’t going to find it.
There is no easy way to handle covert narcissism.
However, that doesn’t mean it’s not possible.
It doesn’t matter how far into a relationship you are, you can recover. It will be hard, and far from easy.
But realising what you are up against is an important step to recovery.
Some people deal with a covert narcissist their whole life and are made to believe their manipulation until they die.
Sad, right? Well, you are already ahead of your narcissist.
With that being said, here are the ways to deal with a narcissistic parent:
1. Forgiveness to yourself
2. Educate yourself on narcissistic personality disorder
3. Emotionally disconnect yourself
4. Know your boundaries
5. Go “no contact”
6. Gray Rock Method when no contact is not possible
7. Know who you actually are
At last, the more you break free from a covert narcissist mother the easier it will be to recover.
Cycles and patterns of abuse will become apparent with the more education you give yourself.
I hope you have found at least one new way to understand and recover from this lonely experience.
I encourage you to share and raise awareness for somebody that might just not understand the manipulation spells of a Narcissist.
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