Effects of narcissistic Mother on children
Every day is a different struggle when trying to protect my daughter from narcissistic parental abuse. It is never the same.
A narcissistic personality disorder is complex, and dealing with narcissistic mother symptoms means understanding when abuse is happening to your child.
It may start with marks on the child for not following orders and the child will likely say it was from falling at the playground.
Kids don’t want to get into trouble. Even worse, your reaction will make things go south quickly.
Personally, I went the wrong route by calling child protection (MCFD) to at least show a pattern of marks that were clearly forced.
However, even with doctors agreeing that this was most definitely abuse, child protection closed the files without even looking at forensic evidence.
I was told that bringing our child to the hospital so many times is the actual abuse that is happening.
Abuse claims will be turned on you as harassment, as your proof will seem like a spiteful parent looking for revenge.
With that being said, this leaves a door open for more beatings that are going to be even harder to stop.
A narcissistic parent will continue to do these things until they feel they might get caught. Exposing their shame at the wrong time is a bad idea.
If you are dealing with a narcissistic father or mother, it is best to document these things and keep going back to the hospital.
I don’t care what a child protection worker says to you, your children will see that you are the only one that is trying to help.
If it comes to court, at least you will have consistent documentation showing covert narcissistic mother traits.
Narcissistic parenting distorts our self-perception; instead of being given the building blocks of healthy self-esteem, we internalize a nagging inner critic and a perpetual sense of self-doubt
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Dealing with a narcissistic mother
It is not easy trying to protect your own mental health while shielding your children from manipulation and rage.
Signs of narcissistic abuse will become very clear as you are with your children without your ex-spouse around.
You know your children the best. You have to go with your gut.
They count on you to see the darkness, and stop it from taking them over.
How to deal with narcissistic parental abuse
You have to understand that nobody is going to understand the pain that you and your children are going through.
Narcissistic parents are the best at looking like the people that are taking full care of their child.
Unfortunately, we know that children are nothing more than just a negotiating tool to get what they want.
They have no love to give.
If you are involved in a court battle, you need to learn how to beat a narcissist in court.
With that being said, here are ways to deal with narcissistic parents.
1. Show empathy
2. Let your children express themselves
3. Avoid conflict
4. Spoil your children to compensate for neglect
5. Just be a good parent
Dealing with a narcissistic ex
Co-parenting with an ex-spouse is a challenge, though it is manageable through careful planning and communication