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Unforgiving Personality Traits you should stay away from

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Covert narcissistic personality

Different levels of a narcissistic personality can range from less severe to extremely dangerous, and people with narcissistic behaviour can be toxic for your mental health.

Understanding covert narcissist traits are the most common to see when people fail to recover from narcissistic abuse.

Here are three of the most common :

1. Exhibitionist (Grandiose) Narcissist

When I first looked up covert narcissist traits for narcissistic personality this did not fit my former spouse.

However, I am happy that I kept reading into it.

The knowledge I was able to take in has helped me with narcissist parenting, which helped me put armour on our daughter and shielding her from the abuse.

Exhibitionists are common for the following:

  • No lack of insecurity
  • Want to be admired
  • They feel they are better than everyone around them, including friends and family. No shame, no regrets.
  • You are likely to know a bully, or perhaps a friend that is always talking down on somebody. Maybe even in your family. This narcissistic personality is very common and easy to spot.

2. Closet (covert) Narcissist

Unlike the former, a covert narcissist parent will want to be associated with somebody whom they admire

*It is important to understand how to protect you and your children from a frightening blowout*

3. Toxic (Malignant) Narcissistic Personality

  • The most dangerous, and abusive of all associated disorders
  • Show no empathy
  • No boundaries, known commonly to use children against their former spouses
  • The court is their playground with the ability to manipulate judges and lawyers
  • The gray rock method should be used when children are involved

Covert Narcissist Mother Traits

Firstly, while studies show that men are more narcissistic than women, covert narcissist traits in Mothers are rapidly becoming just as common.

And if you know anything about family court, you will know how children are pawns in a nasty court battle.

Mental health issues from this horrible upbringing are brought to adulthood, affecting their social relationships and even their work life.

abusive mother

With that being said, there are many different levels of narcissism. 

Here are a few ways that covert narcissist traits will cause a Mother will abuse her kids:

The Family Scapegoat

  • This abuse is the covert Mother living her past childhood through her narcissist child of being told she was never good enough. 

Neglect and two-faced

  • Plays as a “Super Mom” in the public eye, but behind closed door pays little to no attention to their child.
  • Will often leave the child with other people because they feel their time is more important

Physical abuse

  • Can also re-live and imprint their unfortunate childhood with biting, scratching, punching, and more
  • It becomes subtle as soon as there is cause for a covert narcissist Mother being exposed. 

Emotional abuse

  • Blamed for everything
  • Teaches children to lie
  • Brainwashing 
  • Parental alienation

narcissistic personality types and the subtle chaos that is caused only means you may never find out that you are, or were, being abused by a self-involved manipulator.

On the other hand, you may just refuse to accept that you are being abused at all. 

Gaslighting parents have used this emotional abuse on their children for years because it usually goes unnoticed.

The reason for this is because it is extremely hard to see it happening to you. 

A Narcissist can make it seem like everything is your fault, leaving you in the dark and trying to help this person to see your way.


covert traits

This is what they want.

they have betrayed you and made you a victim of your empathy. 

With that being said, I didn’t understand the narcissistic meaning when I was told my child’s Mother is likely a Narcissist.

I looked it up later that day and it still didn’t fit her criteria as she wasn’t that “cocky” nor did she have much of an ego.

However, reality set in when I looked further into symptoms of narcissistic abuse, and the different levels of manipulation. 

For years I had been feeding a narcissistic mother syndrome disorder. 

Her supply to feed off of and she ate very well.

Understanding the difference between sociopath traits relative to your situation is crucial for protecting your child from the sadistic, and cold actions of a narcissistic personality.

If you feel you are dealing with somebody that has a mix of traits associated with two different disorders, it’s my advice to read up on a narcissistic Sociopath.


Research of narcissistic personality

More research on mental disorders associated with narcissism is crucial.

It is extremely destructive and it is ruining our society as a whole.

Masking the true battered meaning as the delusions enable people to use subtle parental alienation to create child abuse.


Narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) involves a pattern of self-centered, arrogant thinking and behavior, a lack of empathy and consideration for other people, and an excessive need for admiration. Others often describe people with NPD as cocky, manipulative, selfish, patronizing, and demanding. This way of thinking and behaving surfaces in every area of the narcissist’s life: from work and friendships to family and love relationships.
Melinda Smith, M.A. – HealthGuide.org


manipulation from a covert narcissist

The history of a manipulating mental disorder

The earliest heard about narcissistic personality and the sense of self-involvement is found in ancient Greek mythology, further explained by Kendra Cherry – author at Very Well Mind

Narcissistic personality disorder has its earliest roots in ancient Greek mythology. According to the myth, Narcissus was a handsome and proud young man. Upon seeing his reflection on the water for the first time, he became so enamored that he could not stop gazing at his own image. He remained at the water’s edge until he eventually wasted to death.

During the 1950s and 1960s, psychoanalysts Otto Kernberg and Heinz Kohut helped spark more interest in narcissism. In 1967, Kernberg described “narcissistic personality structure.” He developed a theory of narcissism that suggested three major types: normal adult narcissism, normal infantile narcissism, and pathological narcissism that can be of different types.


Adding to the above, in 1980 the narcissistic personality was finally recognized in the third edition of the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorder and criteria were established for its diagnosis.

However, very little has changed since that time.

Unfortunately, it’s hard to diagnose or even point fingers at somebody for the abuse. 

Not only is it subtle, but it’s also not taken seriously.
 

Different types of narcissistic personality

Not only have I experienced how delusional people with this mental disorder can be, but I have also experienced the child abuse that comes with it.

The system is unlikely to help you, and you will only waste money on lawyers pretending to care.

Protecting you and your children from the covert narcissist traits

Lastly, I had to learn the hard way of going about these demons. 

My former spouse was able to have a lot of her flying monkeys stand before the courtroom and make false accusations against me.

Subtle parental alienation from my child’s daycare and even false ministry calls to paint a bad picture.

Once you have wiped up all the blood off of yourself from being kicked down for no reason, it won’t take long before your children start being abused.

Why? 

Because you exposed the Narcissist for who they are, and you are not feeding them their sadistic narcissistic supply addiction anymore.  Now you must receive a delusional payback through your children.

Contact us now if you are going through this, because minimizing and pinpointing the abuse is best to start early.

trust me.

A manipulating, bitter, spiteful, and out-of-control Narcissist will do anything to keep you from your flesh and blood. 

They will do it with a smile.
Don’t wait for them to change, it’s not in their plans to get back with an ex 

Protect your mental health, and listen to your children when they tell you something is wrong

You are not dealing with anybody normal.

expect the worst

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Father, entrepreneur and dedicated to helping people expose their narcissists so they can become free again. Mental health is easy to lose focus on when you are being gaslighted and manipulated but help is always around the corner!

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