Raised by Narcissists | narcissistic parenting

To begin, people are quick to say they are raised by Narcissists whenever they are confronted with their narcissistic behaviour.

Parents become the blame game to ease themselves of shame

However, this is not always the case.

It’s important to always educate yourself on the narcissist parenting and how people with a personality disorder parent their children.

With that being said, you will get plenty of useful information regardless of if you were or are raised by a narcissistic mother or father.

You can be helped no matter the situation of being raised by narcissists

  • living with, or grew up living with a Narcissist as the parent(s)
  • spouse or former spouse is showing narcissistic personalities

If somebody around you seems to be showing symptoms, you will want to clarify it immediately so you can disappear from their lives.


How do you know if you were raised by Narcissists?

But behind closed doors, all pretense falls away. Only you, their child, knows what it’s like to endure their cold shoulders for days on end over a minor infraction, or bear the brunt of constant, age-inappropriate demands for perfection and strength. You know what it’s like to be parented by a narcissist.


Along with narcissist triangulation, there are complex things to understand when being raised by toxic people.

Obviously, with all the surprising and shocking threats that come up with a narcissistic personality disorder, there are certain signs of a covert narcissist mother and only two kinds:

1. Ignoring Narcissists

  • Complete neglect and show no care about their children’s lives.
  • Children are a threat to them, so the less that they are taking care of their children, the better off they will feel about themselves

2. Engulfing Narcissists

  • Shows obsessive involvement and care, the complete opposite of the former.
  • Forces their self-image onto their children, and will make sure they do not stray away from this without punishment. 

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What symptoms arise from being raised by narcissists?

Certain feelings and emotions go through people when they are knowingly, or unknowingly raised by Narcissists.

For example:

1. You aren’t able to put your needs first

  • Leads to narcissist triangulation by bosses, significant others, and everybody around you as you always feel the need to please others
  • Can’t feel satisfied with anything you do for yourself

2. Constantly over-sensitive

  • As you grow into adult life, you will become emotional for the slightest things.  This allows you to be easily manipulated in relationships.
  • Unable to hold down a job

3. Over-Competitive

  • In some cases, this may turn positive, but for the most part, you will lose your self-worth trying to win at everything.  And it won’t ever be good enough for you
  • Caused by narcissistic parents being critical of every move, with little to no encouragement in your childhood

4. Shy and unable to speak up

  • No confidence
  • Do not want to start any fighting, even if it is a delusional thought. 
  • Caused by manipulation and abuse of “never being good enough”

5. Depression and anxiety

  • From being neglected and discarded
  • If one parent has a lot of relationships, this can be caused by becoming attached and detached from numerous “Mother” or “Father” figures
  • Realizing you were raised by Narcissists.  The sudden eye-opener can also be traumatizing.
  • Badmouthing, brainwashing against other siblings and/or your other parents;

If you are feeling any of these symptoms, it’s best to get help immediately so you can begin your journey to narcissistic abuse recovery.

Now, let’s dig deep into the cause of narcissist parenting and how you can minimize the scars associated with narcissistic abuse syndrome.

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knowledge is power

You can be in control of the manipulation that has unfortunately fallen down your family tree.

control the manipulation mindset that has unfortunately fallen down your family tree.

“What I found that was most important to me, however, was that in revisiting those old traumas, I became free of their emotional power. I sobbed through the writing of virtually every one of them and, re-reading them later, I cried again. And again.

And then I realized that, because I was safe while writing and re-reading them because I was not in the grip of the fear that characterized my interactions with my mother, those tears were healing.”

Narcissist’s Child | Raised by Narcissists

I highly suggest reading more into her blog to relate your situation to the narcissistic personality

Approaching a narcissistic Sociopath and understanding Sociopath traits can save you time and horrific situations in the long run.

Healing from a parent’s abuse

From the unique challenges daughters of narcissistic fathers face to the ways in which adverse childhood experiences affect our brains, Shahida Arabi’s insightful essays resonate deeply with those who have been raised by narcissistic parents.

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How to heal from the narcissistic parenting abuse

Let’s face it, focusing on the past will not help you heal or mend any relationships that may have been broken from this disorder.  Outplay your narcissist at their own game is the secret!

I can not give you advice on this, but I can direct you to the best information.

Perhaps you have suffered from a borderline disorder of the sort, and are giving out unnecessary negative energy to the ones you love?

Maybe you aren’t sure if you have any disorder. This is common when in an abusive narcissistic relationship, where you are tangled in a manipulation tactic of…

am I the crazy one??

gaslighting parents

There are various tools on our page to help you with manipulation and the abuse it causes.

Gaining knowledge on how to crush a narcissist is an ongoing battle if you so choose!

Education on being raised by Narcissists and supporting mental health awareness

Finally, if this is the case for you I highly recommend the Creative Aspirationz blog.

The passion of someone that decided to take control of their mental health. and not let society beat them down.

How inspiring that she is still able to function (in my opinion, better than us) and still raise awareness.

I read this blog quite a bit because it gives me hope that my chaos will get better. My hopes may run much too high of my ex-spouse.

The realization of the abuse and destruction that is harming our daughter should be simple. It’s not. 

My child’s narcissistic Mother doesn’t understand there is help available, but that doesn’t mean I stop trying.

It is my job to understand and work with any mental disorder that comes our way. You can protect your family.

Do not inflict narcissistic injury no matter how tempting it may be.   

The abuse will only carry on times two.

I work with what I have before me, and this includes sacrifices from any angle that needs to be shifted.

Nevertheless, it has given me ways to minimize narcissistic abuse symptoms.  Mental disorders that are confused/ignored by society is a real eye-opener!

it’s important to gain knowledge from a true fighter teaching others the same battle that she is winning, regardless of what she thinks. Keep it up!

narcissistic because of my borderline personality disorder when I’m the complete opposite – I feel too much and love too much and it sends my brain into overdrive in a modernized society although it’s possible to fall in love again for now it’s settling down in my new home ♡”

Creative Aspirationz – Narcissistic Personality Disorder

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