Gaslighting abuse with narcissistic personality disorder
The aftermath of divorcing a woman is not always the topic of conversation. It always seems to be a burden on the man for not choosing the right person.
With that being said, throw a narcissistic personality disorder in the mix and everything goes south. And there isn’t much help. Or there aren’t enough men speaking out on it.
Because we are afraid. Even with being frightened to ruin our big ego, we are also confused as to what the hell is going on. Gaslighting is a common tactic used in a custody battle when divorcing a narcissistic woman.
This is why I decided to do a book review of Michael Sunset: Mind is a terrible thing to manipulate. He sent me an email and asked me to read his new ebook and was looking for any way that he can help on this subject that he went through.
After reading his book on narcissistic abuse, it brought back memories of things that I had somehow forgotten, or chose to, on how sadistic women can be.
For the person trying to control the partner through psychological tricks, the goal is often to make that partner feel completely dependent. By instigating this deep self-doubt and playing the role of the only one who knows what’s right, abusers can wear down their partners and gain control.
Michael Sunset reveals how he was made to believe he was the crazy one. Without a doubt. How is this possible since he hasn’t always thought this way?
Narcissistic personality disorder could’ve been in his own family and they have been rooting against him the whole time.
Or a narcissistic ex-spouse was cunning enough to turn his own family against him. Either one is very likely, and the author shows exactly how to protect your mental health.
Narcissistic ex wife and parental alienation
Michael Sunset goes into showing how to properly protect your mental health when you are faced in a courtroom.
Having a lot of relation to this, we both made a couple of wrong mistakes we were lucky enough to fix to keep our relationship with our children.
There are many men out there that not only have the disadvantage of the court system against them, they also don’t have the resources to keep the fight moving.
Ignoring a narcissist ex isn’t always the best thing to do, as this will only play into a covert narcissist mother’s sick game of playing keep-away with the children.
Narcissistic abuse in a marriage is very common, and it is not always the case of a split up.
Narcissists have adapted to stay with the partner, and gain their narcissistic supply strictly from cheating and/or abusive behaviour that seems to be innocent to a normal onlooker and the victim themselves.
High conflict lawyers love these situations, as they will push you to get what you deserve. However, they are only doing their job:
creating a parent vs parent fight that creates child abuse and family violence for generations to follow.
Children will be trained to go against the alienated parent and with parenting days being limited, it is very hard to reverse once this is drilled into their head.
How can you get mad at the child? very easily. You will start a war on the child to “get back” at the Mother, but you are only creating a bigger gap between your relationship.
Children do not understand the war. Your best bet is to show exactly what you are not. They only need one stable parent, so let it be you.
What we see in the court system now are mental disorders that nobody wants to actually handle.
Family Therapy and Co Parenting with a Narcissist
“They won’t face you one on one with a Therapist. They either have to bring other people in, which is called triangulation, or use the Therapist to abuse you, which is also an example of triangulation.”
In conclusion, my favourite part of this book is the honesty of how therapy is not going to help you when dealing with a narcissist ex.
There isn’t a lot of people that will admit this.
Because it’s easier to tell somebody to just go get therapy when you don’t know how complex it really is when you are faced with mental disorders.
In my own fight to deal with a covert narcissist mother of our daughter, I was also recommended to see a Therapist who immediately fell for the charm and mask of a Narcissist.
I fully agree that it is not the route to go, and learning how to do the “Share Nothing Plan” is what will give you success with keeping your mental health sound.
I highly recommend this book to anybody dealing with an impossible ex spouse. My only complaint on the ebook is that it is directed towards men, more than women.
However, given the context of how it is written, it can also be used for a covert mother or Father. You can see how to deal with a narcissistic husband for more information.
Entrepreneur, Father to my favorite, and dedicated to helping people get back to themselves after being victims of narcissistic abuse.
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